[ON THE REAL]Societal myths about rape culture

On The Real, Sibusiswe Maphumulo and Denmark Vee talked about rape culture and a lot of things related to it.

Sibusisiwe said they decide to talk about this topic because most people are not familiar with what rape culture is and also because of the ongoing trial of Pastor Tim Omotoso.

The trial has sparked a lot of controversy due to the accused’s lawyer Peter Daubermann asking insensitive questions to the first witness Cheryl Zondi.
One of the questions Daubermann asked was if Zondi knew the size of the penis. This angered a lot of people because no one really looks at their rapist’s penis when they are raped or even think about how deep is the penetration.

“That is so insensitive, but it is the kind of attitude people have towards rape and rape victims. They often forget about the ordeal and tend to focus more on how the victim reacted, in some instances you’ll find people asking what the victim was wearing when they were raped,” Maphumulo said.

Rape culture is a state of existence in which the impact and reality of sexual violence, sexual violence is normalised, perpetrators of it are supported by a complex system built on flawed human beliefs, mythologies about gender, and good old fashioned prejudice against women.

Maphumulo said, “The culture aspect includes gender norms that validate men as sexual pursuers and attitudes that view women as sexual conquests by which manhood is legitimized and women are objectified (“bros before hoes”).”

Rape culture is made prevalent by patriarchy, misogyny and the world we are living in that glorifies women as sexual objects that need to be conquered. Real life instances of rape culture can be seen in the Omotoso trial like we have said.

“As a parent your first reaction should be to tend to your child’s wounds instead of asking them what they did in order to be beaten up. It’s the same for rape victims, they get asked what they were wearing, how long the skirt was or if they led the rapist on,” she said.


Examples of rape culture:

• Blaming the victim (“She asked for it!”)
• Trivializing sexual assault (“Boys will be boys!”)
• Sexually explicit jokes
• Tolerance of sexual harassment
• Inflating false rape report statistics
• Publicly scrutinizing a victim’s dress, mental state, motives, and history.

Maphumulo said the most sickening thing is that it’s not only men with this kind of attitude but also women. Some women see rape as something so far away from them, that they feel like victims of rape brought it on themselves and should be punished.

A number of women who have been standing up for Motoso and saying a lot of nasty things about the women that have come forward to say that he raped them, more especially Cheryl, one of them was even expelled from work for posting nasty comments about Cheryl on Facebook.

Listen to the CLIP below for the full conversation:

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By Mndaba Lindelani

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