Feature : Going out alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely.

There was a study that found that people who go out by themselves have as much and even more fun than people who go out in groups. When this information was brought to my attention, my reaction was a little different to my counterparts. They were surprised and I was standing there like “tell me something I don’t know”. The findings of the study were no revelation to me.

There is a lot one can say about human beings need to be around other human beings and history points to the fact that we are social creatures. Fast forward we are wired much the same today.

“Don’t put your life on hold until you have people to do things with,” 

Rebecca Ratner 

Here is a question for you, would you go out alone? I would, in fact I do and it isn’t for lack of companions or any other sinister reasons swirling around in your head about why one would choose to do recreational activities by themselves. I have a lot of reasons and I think what you should be questioning is whether you don’t like going out by yourself or you don’t like what people will think of you when you do?

We love our friends and family but they can take so much energy from you. The friends I have each speak to a certain side of me (and because I have a million sides of myself) some of my friends are polar opposites of each other. By virtue of having a mutual friend in me, some of these polar opposites will collide and that doesn’t always work out so well.

When you take a friend to a certain place, you have to make sure they’re comfortable, your anxious over whether they will like the place or the people, for me that is already sucking the fun out of the whole thing for me. I prefer to go out alone, I know I will like the movie I will choose, I can fully concentrate, I can leave whenever I like get whichever meal tickles my fancy afterwards. There will be no asking questions like, what do you want to watch? I feel like pizza but what do you want to eat? I can just do whatever I want when I want to, it is liberating, and you should try it.

Rebecca Ratner a professor of marketing at the Robert H. Smith School of Business at the University of Maryland, is one of the authors of the study. She says that the main thing holding people back is the fear of being judged by strangers

In their research, Ratner and Hamilton surveyed people and found that they were unenthusiastic about doing fun things alone, but had no problem running errands, working out or doing other practical stuff alone.

With cross-cultural surveys of people from the United States, India and China, the researchers discovered that the resistance comes in part from a  “worry that strangers who saw them out alone would think they lacked friends,” said Ratner.



By: Naledi Sikhakhane


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